The Other ‘F’ Word

It is in the destiny of every great revolution / concept / change to face resistance and often sheer hatred. In my lifetime however, I have yet to see a word face as much aversion as: Feminism. There is nothing quite as scary as half-knowledge and that is probably what has happened to Feminism.

We live in a twisted world, where if a girl says no to marrying you it’s okay to throw acid on her face. Where, a practice as barbaric and horrifying as female genital mutilation is still practiced quite openly under the name of religion and preservation of honour. Amidst all this brutality all we seem to care about is being branded a feminist for the fear of coming across as a fanatic. I have always believed that there are 3 kinds of people in the world: ones that follow the crowd to be accepted, the ones that go against the crowd to be different and the ones that actually make sense. The initiation of Feminism as a taboo solely lies on the shoulders of the first kind, the ones who brand it unmentionable because if you believe in female rights you are either crazy or a dyke. And the world follows it for lack of knowledge or effort.

Take a minute and answer this: Do you believe that women should be treated equally and with the same “respect” as men? Do you believe that women are not the “weaker” sex just because they lack an appendage? If the answer to either of these is YES then I hate to break it to you, you are a feminist.

Something, somewhere, needs to change. Imagine a world where being a feminist is a matter of pride. Where men proudly say that they strongly believe in women equality. Where we can bring kids into this world knowing fully well that they are safe wherever they go. This is the kind of world I want to give my future kids.

So, grow the F up! Educate yourselves and get over words. If you don’t, it won’t be long before women are just shadows of our society, an entity to help produce the next generation of men. If that doesn’t scare you, I don’t know what will.

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Posted by on March 2, 2016 in Uncategorized


January: Of madness and epiphanies in Vengurla / Goa

Kick-started my #12months12trips resolution with a trip that is really close to my heart: a visit to Vengurla, home of one of my besties (read: Dressydame). Anyone who has known me for the last 3-4 years, knows that visiting Vengurla is an annual tradition and it just feels amazing to start my travel year with this.

Vengurla 2016

The entire thing started off with a rushed phone-call from said bestie and instant booking of tickets, all in the span of 10 minutes. The over-planner in me had a bit of a panic moment but realization hit that going with the flow was the need of the hour. 15 days and countless prayers later, we finally had confirmed tickets just 2 days before we were scheduled to leave. But of course, knowing us, the panic doesn’t end there. After delays and nail-biting suspense as to whether our dear, ever late, friend Pratik would ever make the train, we were finally on our way! This might sound really silly but I have fallen in love with 2nd AC compartment (especially if you are a group of 4). Like, how cool is it to not have strange people sleeping on the berth next to yours and snoring loud enough to crack glass? We napped most of the journey and finally reached Kudal, the nearest station to Vengurla. After a quick (and blisfully cold) rickshaw ride we finally spotted the familiar peach bungalow and the its friendly little dog. It definitely felt like coming home.
While I won’t go into what we did each day of our 4-day vacation I will say that it involved way too much seafood, lying on the terrace and spotting constellations, picking shells at the beach among other things. While we did go to Goa for a day, this trip was not about the typical goa vacation of burning oneself at the beach and getting loaded up on drinks. We relaxed, we partied and most importantly what I got out of this trip is that I looked at the stars and realized what I want. I just saw it there, if that makes sense. More on that some other time.
Here’s to 11 more equally awesome vacations this year.
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Posted by on February 4, 2016 in Uncategorized


12 months, 12 trips

There’s no wake-up call louder than that of the knowledge that you will be turning 30 in just a few short months. Gone are the carefree single digit birthdays, awkward teens and the unmentionable 20’s. The big 3 O is just as advertised: scary enough to turn your hair grey (quite literally I might add). Like most people who suddenly have an epiphany as they near this milestone, I too have come up with a way to make this year one to remember. I’m sure the title is a dead giveaway; in the span of 12 months I will be taking 12 trips (or more if the wallet permits) of both weekend getaway and international sojourn varieties. I can’t say that this will be easy, considering I’m the most impulsive spender there ever was. I’m sure it will be fun making this resolution stick. To the roads waiting to be traveled…..

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Posted by on January 27, 2016 in Uncategorized


The dark side of Social Media

It is rightly said that danger is often lurking around the corner; or in the case of Social Media it often lurks around the next comment. I like to think of myself as a traditionalist. If I feel the urge to protest I would gladly take a sign and go picketing. However the advent and magnanimous growth of the internet has given birth to a deadly monster: Armchair Activism. Sounds harmless but take a moment and think about this monster that lives in society and no matter what you do you can never get rid of it. Once it’s out there, it’s out there.

Recently we saw the heartthrob of many, Mr.Aamir Khan, making a comment that hadn’t much thought going into it. And while I agree that the comment may not have been one of his best decisions yet, the mass lynching that ensued was neither expected nor completely logical. This is what the entire fiasco looked like to me:

Unfriendly Hindu Politician: “I will send my son to USA to study. He will definitely go to Harvard.”
Aamir Khan: “My wife thinks we should take our son abroad for his safety.”

I haven’t seen anything more ridiculous. Firstly, and I say this as a Social Media expert, venting on Facebook is not the same thing as going to a political representative and making yourself heard. People need to understand that while the reach of social platforms cannot be ignored, you still do not hold enough power to convict someone just because you are hypocrites. I ask all armchair activists this: “How many of you have the guts to talk to Aamir directly and say what you say online to his face?”. If you really think our country is the best in the world, which it’s definitely not, why not become active members of the government and work hard to improve it even further so no Indian ever thinks of leaving? Why not work hard to make India one of those countries where people want to move to, even if they weren’t born here.

What terrifies me about the digital era is that everything has become way too simple! The effort has been taken out of things. While the fun part is that you can buy yourself a pair of sexy shoes even while in a meeting with your boss, the dark end of the spectrum is that you can tear a person to shreds with a single click. India was way more tolerant when protesting actually involved going to Azad Maidan by the 7am local with your banners. After all, “subeh subeh kaun uthega?”. Now an anti-social boy from Nalasopara can get his jollies and feel larger than life by poking fun at celebrities who he can never dream of meeting. While he may not have the courage to talk to anyone in a public setting, he does have the guts to abuse a celebrity’s entire family on the world’s largest public setting: Social Media. Long live the power of anonymity. Digitization has reduced the gap between people of all stratas of society, but I am not sure if this is necessarily a good thing. For all the good the internet has done for the world, the world has retaliated by finding every possible loophole to wreak havoc.

So a sincere request to all the ‘trolls’ – take a week off! Go offline, meet people you actually know, and more importantly: chill the F out. Let’s abide to using Social Media for the good, save the animals, educate people on causes you are passionate about, help the needy and spread positivity. Because someday, one unfortunate day, it all comes back to where it started. Next time you hit enter on that offensive comment think about how you’d feel seeing that times a million thrown at you. Karma is a bitch.

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Posted by on November 27, 2015 in Uncategorized


Random Crap In An Insomniac’s Mind

Sometimes I have one of those nights where I am sleepy right until the moment my head hits the pillow. Then I’m wide-awake! It’s almost like there’s an evil person in my head who is responsible for switching off the awake switch and pulls back right at the last minute to screw with me. So last night was one of those nights. Here are the exact thoughts that went through my head (Not even kidding):

10:59pm – “I’m so sleepy I’ll die”
11:15pm – “Accio toothbrush!!”
11:20pm – “Chuck it. I won’t get cavity if I don’t brush aaj”
11:30pm – “Ahh room is finally cool. Let’s sleep”
11:43 – “What time’s it?”
11:57pm – “OMG it’s almost 12. Now I have to sleep”
12:03pm – “Shit I wonder if it’s possible to experience the exact moment the brain falls asleep”
12:17 – “I’ll never know what it’s like to fall asleep”
12:30 – “If I was a murderer on Crime Patrol, where would I dump the body?”
12:32 – “Not in the nearest jungle that’s for sure”
1:01 – “What would be a good career change for me?”
1:03 – “I’ll become Manasi Ma. Godwoman and messiah of the downtrodden”
1:05 – “I’ll wear all green”
1:13 – “WHY CAN’T I SLEEP?”
1:25 – “I think I’ll work for a while”
1:26 – zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I really need to meet a sleep specialist. Or an exorcist, to help me get rid of my crazy thoughts.

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Posted by on September 2, 2015 in Uncategorized


Congratulations to the new Mom

Hi there, congratulations on the birth of your son. I’m sure he is adorable and definitely will be your pride. I’m not a Mom yet but I have met a lot of sons and I just wanted to say a little something. Do open your mind and hear me out. One day your son will grow up and become more than just the apple of your eye; he will become the light of a young woman’s life. Today I’m going to speak for that young woman. The first thing I request you is to teach your son that men and women are equal. An appendage doesn’t entitle him to be of a superior sex. Teach him to respect the women that come into his life and watch how beautifully he is treated by all of them. Let him know that respect must be earned, but if he does earn it he will be among the happiest men on earth. It wont be a piece of cake but if he has a great example in you it won’t be that hard either. Secondly, teach him to dream. Great ambitions started with just a dream and teaching him to dream is the best foundation for his future life. But remember, he needs to learn that dreams need hard work to make them come true.

Encourage him to get hobbies that will stick with him for the rest of his life. The best relationships are the ones where both partners have individual interests and by encouraging this early you are ensuring a happy married life for him. No really it’s a lot more important than people give it credit for.

I know you will definitely give him a good education but along with the degrees teach him how to make friends. Also let him know that 4 really close friends are better than 20 acquaintances.

Lastly, and I know this is the hardest, teach him to let go of your skirt as he grows up. Let him fall and let him make his own mistakes with the woman who is ready to accept those little mistakes. Don’t worry, you’ll always be his number 1 girl. Just hope you don’t try to be the only one.

On behalf of your future daughter-in-law

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Posted by on March 27, 2015 in Uncategorized


What the WHAT?

I have issues: there I said it Mom! Now, normal people have a couple of things that really bother them. I have 9. Not obvious 9 peeves but things that would prompt a regular person to say “What the what???” But like Mr.Monk says “If you paid attention you’d be worried too”. So here goes my list of things you need to know (YES YOU DO! Now read up)

1.) Bell Peppers:

What the hell is up with Bell Peppers? First of all, who discovered the only vegetable that smelled like a pest killer? More importantly why don’t other people realize this. I wonder how people go through life eating a terrible smelling vegetable that tastes like a table mat. Think about that the next time you eat stir fry. You are welcome.

2.) Food that smells

Primarily eggs and fish. However, like all rules with immense logic behind them, this too has exceptions. For e.g. Sunny-side-up and boiled are perfectly normal ways to eat eggs. Omlette on the other hand: NO! Shellfish is totes acceptable, fish in curry isn’t. Don’t even ask me to explain this. 

3.) Can’t sit next to doors

Basically anywhere except a car. In a car I have to sit next to a door. THIS MAKES TOTAL SENSE! Think about it, you are in a movie hall that gets attacked by man-eating aliens; who do you think they go for first? The ones closest to the door that’s who! The ones in the middle still have the hope that the aliens feel too full to eat them.In a car sitting in the middle makes me feel overly claustrophobic. Maybe goes back to my childhood recurring nightmare of being in a box thats closing in. I was a strange child.

4.) Multiple half empty bottles of the same drink

Why does this have to happen!!?? You finish a bottle and then drink from the next. Do this at my place, please be prepared for quick death. I’ll be completely okay dealing with the “Friend killed over bottled water” headline the next day in the paper. 

5.) Vegetables cut too big

Chop them up tiny and make them edible. That’s all I ask. Is that too much to expect?

6.) Food items touching on a plate

Because who can eat DalPotatoChickenSalad? 

7.) Sharing a water bottle

Do yourself a favour: Google how many germs are shared when we share a bottle and then tell me you don’t care! 

8.) Sweaty people

Hey I sweat too but I do not go around standing close to people so at one point we are sharing the sweat 50-50! 

9.) Local trains

Local trains are basically metal boxes full of sweaty people who give zero fucks if you combust due to sweat and claustrophobia. I’d literally rather be stuck in traffic for 3 hours than take a 15 minute train ride. 

Most importantly…


People stop existing for me when they say “I didn’t knew that….”. I didn’t knew I had such a problem with it. #SlapsSelfOnFace

OMG there are 10 things?? I have 10 issues! What the hell is wrong with you woman??

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Posted by on February 17, 2015 in Uncategorized